GRIEF – Healing & Renewal with Essential Oils

Sometimes you can miss someone so much that you don’t know how you’ll get through the pain that grief brings in all its different forms – the loss of a job, a person, a friendship, a relationship.  Grief isn’t a short-term thing – it is a long-standing, relentless pain and longing for the thing that is not in your life anymore.  It’s all the things that came with that thing – the comforting and grounding touch of a hand, security, routine, a sense of identity.  Grief is complex, but what is common is that grieving is a process. Shock, denial, anger, sadness and then finally (and after much time), acceptance and moving forward.  At the point of loss though, these final steps seem inconceivable, impossible, and in between all these standard emotions and through them are turbulent, changing emotions like despair, helplessness, frustration, regret, guilt, fear, insecurity, isolation, abandonment, and hopelessness.  Essential oils can be extremely comforting when used aromatically or topically to help balance the emotions that accompany the grieving process and they can uplift in dark times and support the transition of grief and emotional healing.

My nan passed away almost seven years ago now.  She was my rock.  The one I turned to for advice and support.  She lived with us so long that everything about her was familiar and comforting, even her tellings off because it was representation of how much she cared!  I knew she was hearing my silent cries for help.  My early teens were a tough and very challenging time for me and I became very lost.  My nan was always a stable place to come back to, which grounded me and refocused me in the hard times.  I suffered terribly when she passed away.  I fell apart, in truth.

In the present day my grief has mostly passed, but there is not a day that goes by that I do not miss her or think of her, and even as an adult and especially as a mum I have moments where I feel like that lost little girl and I look for her.  Sometimes I feel her presence so strongly that I almost feel like I can reach out and touch her.  Other days she feels so far away that I panic because I cannot find her.  Then there are other times I am sure she is reaching back to me through others and things that happen in my day – when a stranger offers an embrace or a rainbow appears when my heart is hurting or I hear her song on the radio.

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Many times I have used my essential oils to help me with feelings of loss.  There are many oils you can turn to in order to counteract negative emotions and increase positive mood, and therefore improve overall emotional health – Bergamot, Citrus Oils, Roman Chamomile, Jasmine, Sweet Marjoram, Neroli, Rose, Frankincense, Melissa, Ylang Ylang and Vetiver are just a few – but unless you know what oils can help in which way, using them can seem daunting!

This is why when doTERRA launched a line of essential oil blends to aid in emotional health in 2015 I literally jumped for joy!

Their system, called Emotional Aromatherapy, includes six 5 mL essential oil blends of CPTG Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade® essential oils.

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Each bottle blends the oils that elicit specific emotional responses in the precise ratios that will have an entirely new spectrum of benefits compared to using each oil in isolation:

  • The Cheer Uplifting Blend of citrus and spice essential oils promotes feelings of optimism, cheerfulness, and happiness, and counteracts negative emotions of feeling down, blue, or low
  • The Console Comforting Blend of floral and tree essential oils promotes feelings of comfort and hope and counteracts negative emotions of grief, sadness, and hopelessness
  • The Forgive Renewing Blend of tree and herb essential oils promotes feelings of contentment, relief, and patience, and counteracts negative emotions of anger and guilt
  • The Motivate Encouraging Blend of mint and citrus promotes feelings of confidence, courage, and belief, and counteracts negative emotions of doubt, pessimism, and cynicism
  • The Passion Inspiring Blend ignites feelings of excitement, passion, and joy and counteracts negative feelings of boredom and disinterest
  • The doTERRA Peace Reassuring Blend of floral and mint essential oils promotes feelings of peace, reassurance, and contentment and counteracts anxious and fearful emotions.

The Emotional Aromatherapy System is a very powerful tool for grief, but only by trying the blends will you discover their true value to you.   If you would like to try the Emotional Aromatherapy System it is available from my online shop, along with the essential oils individually.  To fully understand the potential of using essential oils for your emotional balance, and to get started <>

Either way, if you are in the clutches of grief right now I offer you my love and strength in this difficult time of healing and renewal.

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Much love x x

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Achieving Hormonal Balance

Let’s face it, being mum is a crazy journey! It’s exhilarating and exhausting all at once, we have days where we feel like superwoman and we have days where we feel like Superman when he’s on kryptonite. What we don’t need as women is an unhealthy hormone balance to screw with our mood, emotions and our weight, which screws with our self-esteem, our digestion, our sleep and other key areas of our life as well!

Essential oils can be be very powerful in rebalancing our hormones. Unlike drugs you may be prescribed by a doctor, the oils do not contain hormones, but have properties that stimulate hormone production and balance. First of all, how do we recognize our hormones are out of sync?

There are a variety of symptoms that we can look out for:

  • irritability, anxiousness
  • PMS
  • menopausal symptoms that interfere with day to day life
  • heavy periods, irregular cycles
  • inability to lose weight
  • breast tenderness
  • hair loss
  • fatigue, insomnia
  • hypothyroidism
  • lack of sex drive
  • dryness “down below”
  • Sore joints and tendonitis
  • increase in belly fat.

This is just a few indications that your hormones could be out of balance.  And it can be different hormones “out of whack.”

The following oils can balance estrogen levels:

  • Clary Sage and fennel (both phytoestrogenic oils)
  • Lavender (naturally lowers cortisol levels)
  • Frankincense (balances hormone levels, which reduces symptoms associated with menstruation and menopause)
  • Basil (great for period pain and increases the body’s natural response to both physical and emotional stress, while conditioning you to cope better)
  • Geranium (an adaptogen oil ).

I use Geranium every day for its overall balancing effect on female hormones.  As I am breastfeeding I have suspected low estrogen, but I also suffer from adrenal fatigue, so this is a great oil for me. I rub it over my kidneys mixed in fractionated coconut oil and frankincense daily. Of course, stress can also cause low estrogen in all its different guises (dietary, emotional, too much work and not enough sleep, environmental toxins, or pain and inflammation) and it definitely causes adrenal fatigue over an extended period of time. So it’s really important to work on this also to avoid a state of chronic stress that causes your cortisol levels to rise, which in turn causes drops in estrogen and progesterone that can cause menstrual irregularities, weight gain, estrogen dominance, and infertility.

Out of all the essential oils listed above Clary sage is the most commonly related to hormone balance and has been used since Medieval times for balancing hormones and relieving pain.  You can dilute a few drops in fractionated coconut oil and rub into your ankles daily. Or, if menstrual cramps are painful, rub the mixture directly onto your stomach and ovary area for pain relief. Add geranium to the blend to enhance pain relief.

You can also add a few drops of clary sage and geranium to a warm bath and enjoy a soak.  Or buy my Balancing Bath Melts that use this blend.

There is a great article on the doTERRA blog about hormonal balance, which also talks about the importance of diet in hormonal balance and introduces some of the doTERRA products available for hormone health. For example, the doTERRA® Phytoestrogen Lifetime Complex contains plant-based phytoestrogens, flax seed extract, and pomegranate extract. The ClaryCalm® Monthly Blend is a specially formulated blend of 12 essential oils that can be applied to the skin for a soothing effect.

There are other things you can do to support your hormonal balance.  Dietary stress (eating the wrong foods for your body, or too many processed foods), emotional stress, too much work and not enough sleep and environmental toxins have a hugely negative effect on your hormone balance.  I refer a lot in this blog to reducing your toxic load by following a more natural way of life.  I have decided to elaborate on this and other ways to get and stay healthy in a free 30-page e-book available when you subscribe to my newsletter.  Look out for the launch of this on my Facebook page in the next few weeks!

The final thing I recommend to keep hormonal imbalances from wreaking havoc is a Liver Detox with Lemon Essential Oil.  The liver regulates the sex hormones, primarily estrogen.

A Dutch study has found that the compounds in lemon peels, a large component of doTERRA’s lemon essential oil, improve liver functions like hormone regulation by lowering liver cholesterol.  You can add 1-5 drops of lemon essential oil to a glass of 250ml water each morning and drink before you eat or drink anything else. I do this for blocks of 6-12 weeks when I feel my body needs it.

You can also buy my beautifully delicate blend of Evening Primrose Oil and doTERRA Balance, Frankincense, Geranium, Clary Sage and Lavender in a rollerball for $10.

I add Balance to the oils I recommend above because it contains Blue Chamomile, Ho Wood and Frankincense to support with stress, quiet the mind and uplift mood, but also Spruce that has a hormone mimicking action that helps reestablish balance, especially in the pituitary, thyroid, adrenal and reproductive glands. You can apply to the t-zone on your face and rub in like a moisturiser nightly, apply directly to hormonal breakouts or use on the soles of your feet/ankles daily to support hormonal balance. Contact me to order yours now.

Oils can also be ordered in these handy packs of 4 mini bottles in a beautiful purple or black carry case that you can take out and about with you for use when you need to.  $60 with your choice of 4 oils.

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Please note, what works for one person may not work for another and my experience/products should not replace advice from a doctor.

Much love x x

Zero Waste Beauty by Essential Mum

It’s International Bag Free Day today and it’s got me thinking about how awesome (and easy) Zero Waste Beauty is!  Good for you and good for the environment…

Most of Essential Mum’s products are packaged plastic free and I really advocate that you re-use the amber bottles that you buy them in for your own beauty creations.  I share lots of ideas in my monthly newsletter.  if you are not receiving it yet, email me! 🙂  You can even make essential oil bottle Christmas lights!

Making your own beauty products that use natural ingredients, like beeswax and coconut oil, save on energy, waste and water.   Thus being kind to our earth 🙂  And you don’t have to come home with a plastic shopping bag full of plastic pots either.  Just get your natural essential oils from me to get started!

Here are a couple of zero waste beauty ideas to get you started that are so easy I can’t even find a way to describe how easy they are!  😉 …

  • Condition your hair with homemade apple cider vinegar.  Add lavender essential oil to boost hair health and to smell nice! Add Rosemary essential oil for hair growth and Melaleuca to support a healthy scalp.
  • Make your own mouthwash recipe: Boil 500 mL water and cool to room temperature. Then add 30 drops peppermint essential oil and 15 drops clove essential oil. Shake well. Store in pharmaceutical grade amber glass

To get you started on your day journey,  I’m offering a $50 Gift Voucher for Pure Nature when you sign up to  a DOTERRA Wholesale Account with me, so that you can stock up with carrier oils, beeswax and more to make your own beauty products and Rollerballs. I’ll also throw in 5 rollerball bottles to get you started! PLUS,  the delightful duo of oils – doTERRA Motivate and Cheer! All you need to do is click Join & Save at my website and choose a kit over 150pv to get started on your essential oils journey.  Offer expires July 31!

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If “DIY” isn’t your thing I do make natural, beautiful, handcrafted (with love!) beauty products that you can buy from $3, just check out the shop at my Facebook page to see what I currently have in stock and you can always contact me to make a personalised order!  Just let me know your needs ❤

Much love..   AND DITCH THOSE PLASTIC BAGS TODAY FOR #INTERNATIONALBAGFREEDAY ❤ x x