One of the things we are taught as Coaches is to interrogate an existing reality with view to changing it if it doesn’t make us happy.
One of the things I hate as a mum is the constant need to feel like I’m always doing something. It takes me out of the moment, it robs me of precious moments with my children and it tires me out. I check myself on it constantly and have to remind myself not to be that way. How does it serve me, therefore? Frankly, it means I get stuff done.
This simple statement is really revealing to me and helps me to understand why I am constantly on the go, if not physically, then mentally, even though that isn’t the mum I want to be. When I think back to my younger days spent ambling, hanging out, reading, imagining, playing I feel grief that I have lost the ability to just be at ease. This was the intention of my rollerball of the same name. Unlike the other blends in the range that have helped other mums so much, this particular blend of oils really helps me to turn off the mental chatter and just be still, physically and mentally. I use it when I feel my mind wandering during play.
This ability to be fully at ease is so important to me. I don’t want to regret down the line not having just been able to hang out and play with my children, or really seen them without distraction, or heard them, not just listened with my mind on other things. I don’t want my girls to fall into the same dangerous pattern and lose their beautifully innocent ability to just be in the moment.
This drive creates a more useful feeling – excitement – at how I get my presence back. Fully. I’ve already become so much more mindful by decluttering my physical and mental space and becoming more organized. I think the answer lies in why my existing reality serves me, but I have many questions left to ask.
What is your experience? Do you suffer in the same way? I think this would be a powerful subject for a group coaching session; would you be open to exploring this with me?
Drop your comments below because I would be interested in reading them. I think this could go somewhere, but that is a question I am yet to fully address… Who is the mum I want to become?
Much love X X
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Sometimes playing with the children is more important than doing anything but the most basic household chores. A friend said to me, ‘you won’t get any laughs from the clean windows when yoyr chikdren are all grown up and left home. Don’t clean the windows, go and kick a ball around or play cricket with the kids. The dirty windows will wait.