I’ve come full circle. I feel like a flower that is blossoming with Spring. I feel like the motherhood I have experienced thus far has been a journey that is now evolving into something else entirely, at whole new level of life, of financial freedom and opportunity.
The challenges with Eden’s health, my battles with my own demons and my decision to believe that my dreams are not beyond me have all lead to the place I stand now; welcoming a new opportunity to impact others in their wellness; to come full circle like I have.
What does this mean for Essential Mum?
I am going to be making some changes to this site. It will still be your place to go for coaching and essential oils. I am committed to getting back to blogging more frequently now I have freed some time up in my life. In the interim I am going to be putting some time into building a new website and coaching mums to Design Your Life; my ultimate 8 week experience to transform your life into one that brings you happiness every day.
Design Your Life isn’t for everyone, because not everyone has reached a comfortable place with the idea that it’s OK to put ourselves first as mums and live a life that brings us happiness every day. Getting to that point is itself a journey and one I can help you with! (Join my free opt-in at the pop up here).
There seems to be this deep stereotype that I hadn’t noticed until recently around #beingmum that makes it OK to get to the end of every day feeling like a complete failure, as long as you can grab a wine or lose yourself in the bottom of a pack of Maltesers. It’s OK because everyone else is going through it too right? Tomorrow is another day, another chance to do what you’ve always done and feel frustrated that nothing changes. I know I sound harsh writing this, but 713 comments under the post of a popular mum blogger led me to this conclusion. The post had 12k likes!
What she said was fundamentally right. I had a lot of respect for her observations:
1. We are too hard on ourselves as mums
2. The years are short and we will miss these challenges once they are passed
3. There is always a wine or a box of chocolates at the end of the day to set the day right.
What broke my heart was how this post was received. Like an invitation to believe this is the only way it can be. The repeated stories in the comments of deep struggle and belief that a box of chocolates really is the only answer broke my heart. One lady in particular deeply impacted me; she basically said she feels like a failure every day, that every day she feels like she could have done better, so I offered her a chance to look at Design Your Life, but she didn’t.
I get it. You know that I was in that place of struggle. I shared that recently in my article in the Natural Parent Magazine, Why No One Should Survive Parenthood (read it here).
However, I also know that just a simple shift in expectations and a bit of time management can make a massive shift in how we cope with #beingmum, and that this is just the start of what is possible! I understand that it is only a select few who are able to see passed the crowd to a life that is easier and more enjoyable. To let go of the belief it’s OK to just survive parenthood and believe it’s OK to want to thrive because the years are short and we should make the most of them instead of struggle through. We deserve to feel fulfilled in our roles as mothers, we deserve to feel we are doing a good job, not just #beingmum, but as strong, empowered, independent women with our goals and dreams ahead of us.
So I will continue to work on with those of you who come to me open and inspired to change. And I will begin my new chapter of Full Circle Wellness where I will share even more ways to feel wellness across your whole life! Mind, body, wealth and more…drop me a line if you are interested in details or watch this space for my launch!
Much Love in motherhood and now, beyond x x x