Trust your calling, discover your purpose and unapologetically go for it!

Meet Holly, a beautiful, inspired Mumtrepreneur. Her business idea came about when as a new, breastfeeding mum she looked for a feeding apron, but didn’t like any of the ones she found, so  made her own.

“I wanted something really pretty, and something that you could wear as a scarf all the time – because my baby was hungry at the drop of a hat and I didn’t like madly going through my bag trying to find my cover while he was screaming. So I cut up a sarong my brother had just brought me back from Fiji – it was bright and colourful, and with the off-cuts I made Jude a matching bandana style bib. I am really into matching!! It’s cheesy, but cute :)”

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I met Holly only a couple of weeks ago when she contacted me over my Essential Mum facebook page about her desire to help other local (East Auckland) Mumtrepreneurs. We met over a coffee at The Burbs, Farm Cove and she told me her incredible story.

“My business at the moment is nursing scarves and matching baby bibs, but I am hoping to grow as I have a lot of other ideas for other mummy-baby accessories. When I made my first nursing scarf combo, I had other people asking me where they could buy one, and I thought I could make a little business out of it. I had a friend who had just returned home from being a missionary in Bangalore, India and she knew an amazing group of women there who made clothes and accessories. They have been rescued out of poverty, some out of human trafficking, and most are also mothers. They work at this amazing social enterprise where they get paid a really good wage, and they can bring their babies to work as there is a nursery onsite and they can breastfeed whenever they need to – they and their kids also get hot lunches daily. It sounded like a great cause, and I wanted to support it, so I teamed up with them to do our manufacturing. We have some beautiful fabrics, some look a lot like Indian saris.

Making a Difference

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Our whole idea as a business is supporting mums – here in NZ, and there in India! NZ-made stuff is great, but I think because I have travelled and done volunteer work with people in extreme poverty, my first choice is to support them to help themselves out of the poverty cycle.

Our name actually is Bon Baby – bon meaning good in french, because we really want our business to do good in the world!”

And Bon Baby really is making a difference. Every scarf and bib set sold helps another mum on the other side of the world to work while her baby is looked after. Furthermore, Bon Baby’s  supply of business to the social enterprise means they can employ more women to work. Holly explained that because she chooses to pay more for them as suppliers than she would using a ‘sweatshop’ – they can pay their women a fair and liveable wage to support themselves and their kids.

Holly plans to travel to India soon to visit the mums in person. “I really want to meet the women for myself, talk to them, see the nursery, and of course see my products being made. The story of the women in Bangalore is one of the real points of interest in my products, and point of difference, so we plan to share that story as much as we can. Each product comes with a small flier about the women who made it.

There was such a warmth in Holly as we sat and chatted that morning. It was evident that her heart and soul were totally invested in her business, but also in her little boy Jude who is 13 months old and gorgeous. I asked how she managed her business around the responsibilities of #beingmum and she simply said, like all mums, her baby comes first. “He’s my little sidekick and he comes everywhere with me – we like to be out and about and busy – he gets so bored cooped up at home, so we enjoy our lifestyle! His personality – very, very active – works well with me running a business, meeting people and getting stuff done.”

As well as #beingmum and a Mumtrepreneur, Holly is a student at the Auckland University business school and does volunteer work in the community. “I like to keep busy. I have been married to my husband Ewan for nearly 7 years. We live in Cockle Bay. I’m the kind of mum who wants to be with my baby all the time – by the time he turned 1 I had only been apart from him twice, ever.”

I guess it is this passion to be at home with Jude that drives Holly’s passion to help the mums in Bangalore and mums here in East Auckland to achieve in earning their own income at home through a passion and purpose driven business.

Together we have set up East Auckland Mums With Bubs in Biz because we truly believe and are living the experience of magical things happening in our businesses and life when you tap into your true purpose. 

However, we also know it’s not easy and mums need a special kind of support to commit to something outside of #beingmum (because we naturally feel this should be where we invest all of our energy and time) and get the right mindset and strategy. So we want to provide that to mums, by mums.

But as Holly’s story demonstrates, you also need to be a little bit brave. Take the big steps to make a bigger impact, take a chance on your idea succeeding, even if it feels like the odds are stacked against you.

Trust your calling, discover your purpose and unapologetically go for it!

As my journey with Holly so far has proved, the universe will have your back if bravely march in the direction of your purpose. Things will come together. In 2 short weeks, Holly and I have launched our network and organised a Christmas Market for other mums like us to sell their products and services. You can read about it here.

So, what’s your story? Are you ready to share it with the world? Or do you have an idea and want to get started. Speak to me today about how I might be able to help! 💜

Much love X X

P.s. You can learn more about Holly at

http://www.bonbaby.co.nz/

https://www.facebook.com/bonbabyboutique

Baby Wind Blues

 

I had a lovely morning with my Homebirth Group today 😊 Such empowering, inspiring ladies keeping me on track for my own homebirth in December 😊

There were 2 ladies there with brand new babies, one who was suffering with some uncomfortable wind and I was reminded of my own journey with Eden.

She used to be so uncomfortable! I remember one day that she started crying when my husband left for work in the morning and didn’t stop until he got home in the afternoon pretty much; only when she cried herself to sleep exhausted or fed. Otherwise it was pretty much constant. Or so it felt. It was heartbreaking to be unable to soothe her and I really struggled that day. The words “I can’t do this” were on the edge of my tongue as I handed her over helplessly to my husband when he got home.

There were many dark days and I have so much empathy for new mums who are finding it hard! There is no book that tells you what is wrong or what to do to help, everybody seems to offer different advice, and ultimately you have to find what works for you.

Today reminded me of the things that worked for us and I wondered if it would be helpful to share them….

The first is a simple, but beautiful technique called the I Love You massage.  There are some clear instructions at this link: http://www.shoppinglifestyle.com/parenting/i-love-you-infant-massage/769/2/  Basically you are tracing the shape of an I and an upside down L and U on baby’s tummy to move pockets of air along. This really worked for us and was a beautiful way to bond, with Eden’s wide eyes staring up at me! It was relaxing to do before bed and I found Sweet Almond Oil gentle on her skin.

The second technique was pedalling her legs like a bicycle, gently. I tended to do this if she woke uncomfortable in the night. I would hold her little ankles gently and press her legs towards her chest and then hold for a few seconds. I would then alternate the legs like pedalling and then go back to two legs at a time; whatever seemed to be effective for her. She would often let out wind when I was doing this!

Another great thing I learned was about laid back breastfeeding. Have a read of http://www.biologicalnurturing.com/# and see if this is for you. I felt part of Eden’s wind issues early on was how much milk I had – I.e. lots! She would splutter and fuss, feed in short bursts and really often and I guess take in air. She had explosive green poos too! However these improved when I cut out dairy (see the following tip.) For me laid back breastfeeding helped gravity work in our favour. It was also overwhelmingly beautiful lying with her skin to skin.

Diet. This one was a big one for us. Ultimately I found many things in my diet were affecting Eden, but that was because of the issues with her gut. However, there are certain foods I would recommend every mum struggling with a windy baby try cutting out to see if it helps. I found this picture with a good summary:

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Also use a good baby probiotic. You can dab on your breast before baby feeds as a way of feeding the probiotic to them. (I got some funny looks as Eden would unlatch though, with a moustache of white powder!)

Last, but not least, acupressure. Just gently applying pressure in the blue and pink areas on the picture below. This can be done as a massage or simply pressing gently for no longer than 30 seconds. Baby will often tell you when they have had enough and withdraw their little tootsies! Eden wouldn’t stand for much touching of her feet, but reflexologists and Chinese practitioners speak highly of the power of these points.

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Using Essential Oils

As Eden got older (3 months +) we used essential oils more and more to help her. For example, I massaged a proprietary doTERRA blend into her tummy during the I Love You massage, which worked really well! It is called Digestzen.

I only recommend 100% certified pure therapeutic grade essential oils for use on your little one. The majority of essential oils are intended for fragrance or food, rather than therapeutic response, so are made from a majority of man-made laboratory created scents. The bottle may contain some essential oil, and may produce a therapeutic response, but their quality is not dependent on providing results that are therapeutic, they just literally need to smell and taste good.

Importantly, they have to smell and taste THE SAME every time! Which means that if the essential oil used in a particular formulation doesn’t meet the expectation or requirement for the manufacturer they will have their chemists ‘manipulate’ the oil with man-made chemicals to ‘standardize’ the end product. They can also fill essential oil bottles with cheaper chemicals to bring down the price of the bottle.

The essential oils I use and trust, and recommend to my clients are from dōTERRA.  I have used essential oils on and off since I was a teenager – mainly as aromatherapy – but it had never occurred to me that the quality of oils I was using matters.  When I first experienced dōTERRA I was blown away by the difference of these Certified Pure Therapeutic Grade essential oils and was curious to learn and experiment more.  Within a couple of weeks one sample had turned into an entire box and now my oils are an everyday part of my family’s wellness journey.  <<Read more here>>

Finally when nothing else worked for us we used colic calm, a natural gripe water (one that really is natural and not full of sugar and alcohol!) It is from a company called tummy calm and you can buy it over the counter in the pharmacy for a pretty penny. This link from their website that is a great resource for breastfeeding. 

I hope some of these tried and tested techniques work for you if you are struggling with the Baby Wind Blues and if you have your own things that have worked for you, please feel free to share in the comments.

To find out more about essential oils click here.  If you keen on trying essential oils I write a free e-book to help you get started. You can access it here. Or if you would like some help from me directly, Click here!

Much love x x

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